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Russell Smith's avatar

I felt the First No about a job offer 3 years ago. On paper it seemed like exactly what I wanted. Or said I wanted. But the more we talked, the more we negotiated, I kept feeling queasiness in my stomach. That was the First No. More talk, deeper queasiness. Finally I said no and I've never regretted it, even though the path since hasn't always been clear or easy. Loved this essay, Danver

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Danver Chandler's avatar

Russell, thank you so much for your reflections. I'm learning to really trust my body, to lean into the raw animalistic wisdom of it. Your experience with the questions and going deeper is reminding me of how we can miss the First No by being too heady/logical.

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Courtney Ng's avatar

Such a great read, Danver. Thank you.

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Danver Chandler's avatar

I'm so glad you enjoyed the read Courtney ❤️!

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